Have you ever set back and asked yourself, “Who determines what a cuss word is? Why am I offended by some things and not others?” Well, I have. Apart from what this says about me; let’s consider what “offensive language” is and what the Bible has to say about it.
What is Offensive Language?
Offensive language is defined in the Encarta Dictionary as language that is “upsetting, insulting, or irritating” that causes “anger, resentment, or moral outrage.” Now, defining what qualifies as offensive language is as difficult as nailing Jello to the wall. This is so for various reasons, including the following:
- The regular addition of new words,
- The near non-usage of words that were once readily spoken,
- The meaning of words may change over time,
- The meaning of words can differ between cultures, and
- The ability of words to lose their offensive edge,
Consequently, it would be nearly impossible to compile a list of offensive words.
Since we know what offensive language is in principle, let’s briefly consider what the Bible has to say about offensive language.
What does the Bible say about Offensive Language?
Apart from blaspheming God (Exodus 20.7; Lev. 18:21; Matt. 5.34), the Bible does not actually contain a list of forbidden and offensive words. Even though this is the case, there are some things we can glean from the Bible about offensive language and how we, as Christians, can glorify God in all that we do (1 Cor. 10.31), especially in our speech.
There’s More to Speaking Offensive Language than Offensive Language Itself
Say what? I know, this does sound somewhat schizophrenic. So let me put it to you this way. Our speech is indicative of the condition of our heart. That is, what we say and how we say it serves as a barometer in measuring the purity of our heart (Matt 12.34). In following the theme of purity in speech, let’s take a closer look at what we say and how we say it.
What we Say
Like I said above, apart from blasphemy the Bible does not provide a list of offensive language that Christians should avoid. Some may use this point as a means of justifying whatever they say; however, this should not be the case. Although the Bible does not condemn certain words, it does provide us a template in guiding our speech.
In following the theme of purity in speech, the Bible has much to say:
Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving (Ephesians 5.4).
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things (Philippians 4.8).
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscenetalk from your mouth (Colossians 3.8)
I’m not exactly sure why God decided against forbidding certain words, but in some ways I’m glad He didn’t. You see, what is considered filthy, crude, impure, and obscene differs throughout history, cultures, and people groups.
Writing in response to John Piper’s comments on God being an “ass kicker” at a conference (which he later regretted), Wayne Grudem provided great insight into understanding what these previous passages are getting at:
Using the words commonly thought to be offensive in the culture seems to me to be sort of the verbal equivalent of not wearing deodorant and having body odor, or of going around with spilled food on our shirts all the time. Someone might argue that not wearing deodorant or wearing dirty clothes are not morally wrong things in themselves, but my response is that they do give needless offense and cause others to think of us as somewhat impure or unclean. So, I think, does using words commonly thought to be “obscene” or “offensive” or “vulgar” in the culture generally. Plus it encourages others to act in the same way. So in that way it brings reproach on the church and the gospel.
So, words are not intrinsically evil based upon a certain combination of letters, but rather their understood meaning in context. In other words, words in-and-of themselves are not bad, it’s the ideas associated with them which can change throughout history and place-to-place.
Words are not only affected by historical and cultural context, some words, such as “damn” and “hell” have an appropriate and offensive way they can be used.
How We Say It
On one hand, call me crazy but I imagine telling someone, “Go to hell,” or “Damn you,” would be considered offensive. On the other hand, talking about “hell” or “damnation” would be appropriate. Writing for the Christian Courier, Wayne Jackson reminds us that, “It is the manner in which such terms are employed, i.e., hatefully, vindictively, in a pejorative [i.e. expressing criticism and/or disapproval] fashion, that makes the use of them wrong.”
Now that I’ve briefly addressed what and how we say things, I would like to end by providing some basic parameters that I’ve learned and am learning to live with it in guiding my own speech as a Christian.
Sometime this week, maybe next depending upon time, I’ll look to share from what I’ve learned on the template the Bible provides in our speech.
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